You know that, in the matter of a person’s choosing their environment and particularly a friend or comrade or lover assumed to be with one for a life time, no one else must or should advise. It is so completely the choice of the persons involved and no one else. The present trend: To ask a Marriage counsellor, is very very bad. Their advice is based on the static concept of woman or man: She, he, is so and so and wouldn’t fit so and so. Life is exactly the opposite: The quiet mouse of today is the lion of tomorrow, precisely because his erstwhile quietude was the proper preparation for her/his later lion heart. It is in the quiet you discover and grow, it is in the “crowd” you stand much more still.